My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him. Psalm 62:5 (NKJV)
When we talk about self-love, often we speak from a negative slant. We’re usually referring to someone who thinks they are better than everyone else, someone brash, arrogant or condescending. But loving yourself isn’t really a bad thing. In fact, our ability to love others is limited if we don’t love and value ourselves.
Sometimes we look at the other people around us and think that if we had their looks, their money, their spouse, their career, their family, or their skill set, we would feel better about ourselves. We begin to search for things that will make us more worthy, whole, special or valuable. The trouble is, this makes us unhealthy. We become a slave to that thing we think we need to feel okay.
For example, if we look to another person to make us feel valuable, we create unhealthy relationships. We foster an unhealthy dependence, when you don’t really need anyone to make you valuable. While we all love getting words of love and encouragement, we don’t desperately need to seek them out to feel okay.
You need to feel valuable, but that feeling needs to be primarily met by God, your number one source of phenomenal love and value. By studying what God says about you in the Bible, you can gain the kind of self-worth that will cause you to rise you up with more strength and confidence than ever before. This comes from a loving God who says that you are of infinite value because He made you and He’s given everything to you. All you need is His love to have self-worth, and the love you receive from everyone else is just icing on the cake.